Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Someone for Everyone?

Is there is someone for everyone?

Or some people are just fated to not share their life with a significant other during their life in this world...

Some people said that there is someone for everyone...but how do you explain about those who are not married until they drew their last breath...well i had this argument with wifey the other day...she said that everyone are destined to get married before they leave this world...well...as usual...we are not on the same wavelength whenever both of us converse about any topic...hahahah...

I think otherwise...i believe that there is someone for everyone but not necessarily in form of matrimonial ties...i met a lot of unmarried people who stay unmarried until the end of their days...they are content enough with their life...and they have someone by their side...not necessarily a partner form by bond of marriage...but just someone who can be considered a soulmate whereas their bond could never be consummated due to numerous reason...but non-the-less...there are not necessarily alone...its just they never got married...

Sometimes whenever i walk in the malls or any public places...whenever i see those couples holding hands together...along with their children...i do wonder...how did they meet up...how did they end up getting married to each other...i could easily understand those with good looks as it does kind of the start up attraction...but how about those who are not blessed with such good looks...how does ones see what is beyond looks and end up together...it is fascinating indeed...to know their story...because it is not the usual kind of attraction like you see in those dramas with love at first sight and all...i am curious to know...

Non-the-less...it is good to have someone...regardless of the reason...and we all should be lucky to have it...

A.W.

Monday, February 17, 2014

Friends and Colleagues

"There’s a difference between friends and people you talk to at work. You know that, right?”

I will never forget those words...Ady told me once too often...but it taught me an important lesson about colleagues vs. friends...it’s easy to mistake one for the other, especially given the fact that you spend more time with colleagues...like minimum of 8 hours a day and that make is 40 hours a week...in school, making friends is as simple as walking over to the class next door and borrowing a textbook...after study years, however, there are no such opportunities because you might be too busy to go out and meet new people, the tendency is to target your coworkers...it makes sense...after all, they might be the only people you know that are your age or within the same generation, and you see them for eight hours every day...sometimes maybe more depending how much time you spend at work...

While many people use work as a springboard for building strong friendships outside the office, I wouldn’t assume your colleagues are your new best friends just because you take your coffee breaks together...Ady was right—there are differences between friends who will be there for you through life’s tough times and people you hang out with while you happen to be stuck in the same building...you can spare yourself disappointment later on by noting the differences between colleagues and real friends...here are some questions to ask yourself:

•   If your colleague left the company or the same building you happened to work with, would you still be in touch with your colleague in a year?

•   If you had a personal emergency, would you consider asking your colleagues for help?

•   Do you hang out with your colleagues outside the office? (Weekday lunch, happy hour, and business trips don’t count.)

•   Have you met your colleagues' significant other? What about your colleagues' friends outside the office?

•   If your colleague received the promotion and praises, would you be genuinely happy for your colleague?

•   If you ran into your colleagues in the grocery store, would you be able to talk for 10 minutes without mentioning work?

•   Have you seen where your colleague lives?

•   Do you and your colleague have anything in common besides your age and your job?

If you answered yes to most of these questions, you might have found yourself a real friend at work...take care of this relationship by making a concerted effort to spend time with your colleague outside the office...you and your colleague should also avoid working together too closely...its like the same principle of not living with close friends, being in business with them can sometimes be disastrous...whether we like it or not, people can behave differently when money, power, and careers are at stake...suppose you and your colleague pair up for a high-profile work project...your colleague could be the kindest, most generous person in the world after quitting time, but your colleague might take all the credit and do none of the work...you don’t want to put yourself in a situation where you must choose between your friendship and your career...

If you’re lucky enough, someone you meet at work could turn into a friend for life...it happened to me...when i first came to Kuala Lumpur, i don't know that many people...my colleagues were the ones i hang out with after office hour...now i am already working in a different field and still keep in touch with all of them (thanks to social media) and attended my wedding few months ago...same goes to the ones that i met in my old office...we went out and have dinner from time to time...talk nonsense about anything and everything without mentioning work...also not to be forgotten...those who are in the same service as i am...we had been through thick and thin over the years...from then we kinda figure out who are our colleagues and who are the real friends...to top it all, i was the best man to three of my colleagues turn real friends, during their wedding...

How about my office now...well...that goes back to what Ady had warned me since i first started the working life in 2006...differentiate between colleagues and friends...then i will be able to draw the thin line and have better days ahead...i still take his advice seriously...because it is true...when it comes to career, money and power...people can just be an angel to you and turn into a cunning fallen angels when you are out of the radius...i guess that all of us have the same feeling...if only the blades are visible, we will be surprised to see how bad our backs turn out to be from the excessive bleeding...hahaha...whatever it is...i count myself lucky to have real friends around me...may this friendship last forever...

A.W.

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Review - Kami Histeria

The last malay movie that i watched in the cinema was KIL...and i had a great time watching that movie...it gives a totally different perspective about how Malay movie should be made...aside from the typical Yusoff Haslam's and David Teoh's offerings...which does strikes a chord with most of Malay movie-goers...but it just didn't click with me...maybe i can just watch it over in Astro or normal tv...but it doesn't compelled me enough to actually go to the cinema and watch it...


This time around i watched Kami Histeria...first of all...because it has Fazura in it...secondly because it has Diana Danielle in it...thirdly because it has Fazura again...hahaha...well...that's just about it...the main reason was because the movie has both Fazura and Diana Danielle in it...but i had fun watching the movie though...

All the lead actors are female (except for this one girl whom i thought she was a he but turns out she is a she)...at first i thought that Fazura is one of the lead as well but turns out her screen time was only about 25 minutes in 3 scenes...but her character really stole the show...she was Cik Lang...the banshee...

The movie started with the girls renting a flat in Sri Gombak near to the jungle and they have their own all-girl group...they record their song then upload it to youtube for all to hear...one day they accidentally recorded the song with Cik Lang's voice in it...suddenly the song became a hit...major hit...their subsequent song received a lukewarm response which compelled them to have an agreement with Cik Lang to lend her voice into their song...what happens next? well...you have to go and watch it yourself...

Overall the acting was good...except for several actors...which can be improved...Nad Zainal wordless character was really cool...i like her overall appearance in the movie...even without a word...Diana Danielle really growing up yo...Fazura...well needless to say about her...she stole the show everytime she appeared on the screen...eventho it was a short screen time but her character was prominent enough...hahaha...

I would recommend this movie...its not the typical malay ghost-comedy movie that we had been offered lately...it does has its own merit of being different and kinda cool...next up after this...i can't wait to watch Sejoli...hehehe...

A.W.


Saturday, January 25, 2014

8 Months to Go!

I will add a new title to myself...

Son...
Grandson...
Brother...
Uncle...
Husband...
----

Yeayyyy...can't wait...

A.W

Saturday, November 16, 2013

Clean Up My House SALE!

Considering now i am a married man...and now i live with my wife...i just noticed that i have tons of things that i hardly use...or been used but hardly remember that i own it...that's crazy...

So perhaps i am considering to have this ongoing clean up my house sale just to get rid of all that stuffs...namely my hardly worn shoes...hardly worn clothes...books...electrical goods...etc...

But i don't know how to start...

Perhaps i should just advertise it in Mudah...ermmmm...

Thinking...

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Monday, October 28, 2013

25 Oktober 2013

Its the date...one of the most important date of my life...it will be remembered forever...of course...if i don't remember it someone will surely be pissed off with me...hahaha...

On 25th October 2013...aside from my family...there were two person who were there to share the day with me...one is my very best friend since the varsity years...and another is one of my very best friends since i entered the service 6 years ago...Arif was my pengapit during the Nikah day on 25 October 2013 and Mie-G took over during the reception day on 26 October 2013...i was there when both of them took the vow respectively in 2009 and 2013...

On 26th October 2013...it was the reception day...it was the reception on my wife's side...i was looking for familiar faces among the crowd...i was not disappointed...those who matters attended...especially those who i was once the pengapit during their marriage came...that was pretty awesome...i once told my wife...it was not the reception itself that matters...it was the people mattered to you who attend that really made the day...

Done with the wife's reception...my side's reception will be in Alor Setar, my hometown on 2 November 2013...it will be the day when we have all 8 siblings gathered...the last time we gathered was last year during my lil bro's wedding in Terengganu...i am looking forward to it...

My friends used to tell me that the reason i got married a lil bit late was because i am too choosy...but i replied...it was not because i am choosy...but because there was no one who wants to choose me instead...and finally...someone really did...Alhamdulillah...and let the new chapter begins...

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Monday, October 14, 2013

The Ending of My Single Life

In less than 12 days i will be someone's husband...

It took me only 31 years...

Hahaha...

Looking forward to it...

Eventho there will be hurdles along the way...

But that's just life...

What is life without surprises every now and then...

No matter what...

Life goes on...

I can only pray for happiness...

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Tuesday, August 27, 2013

My Shoe Diary - Inventory Checklist Part 1

Its time to clean up my house. memula start dengan kasut dulu. because it is bigger and easier to see.

Waktu dok mengemas-ngemas kasut tu. baru start buat statistik kekerapan aku pakai certain kasut. aku agak gila beli kasut and don't ask me why coz i don't know how to answer that question tapi i am certainly not a shopaholics which my friends always said that i am in denial. errrrr. tak kot. betoi la aku bukan shopaholics. aku cuma very good bargain hunter. kalau benda tu affordable (tak semestinya murah sebab semua orang punya perception about murah is different) by me then aku balasah sajaaaa.

Bila dah start buat statistik itu. baru la tau memang buat berhabuk saja sesetengah kasut itu. ada plak yang memang aku tak pernah pakai and yang pakai sekali sahaja atas sebab-sebab tertentu. now aku rasa cam nak letgo ajer certain kasut-kasut aku. selalu aku letgo kat adik-adik aku ajer for free. tapi sebab dah terlampau banyak aku letgo sampai diorang pon cakap tak payah bagi lagi dah. tak terpakai katanya.

Item 1


Kasut Onitsuka Tiger ni aku beli waktu pi The Hague tahun lepas. saiz 9. Beli dekat satu kedai kasut yang dia letak last pair kat atas satu rak pastu reduction kaw kaw punya. ini pon kawan aku yang perasan pastu panggil aku. demmm. I paid about EUR35~RM150 for it.  it was a reasonable purchase sebab aku memang suka. tapi masalahnya tapaknya itu kecik untuk kaki aku yang gedabak nieh. aku pernah pakai sekali sahaja. after a while kaki daku udah ngak selesa gitu. then aku tak pakai dah. terbiar sahaja di rak itu sebagai perhiasan. huhuhu.

Item 2


Kasut Skechers ni plak aku beli dengan adik aku kat Rinku Town, Osaka in 2011. saiz 9.5. sebab utama sebab memang murah amat. paid only about Y2,000~RM70. dia letak kat depan-depan susun atas kotak ada 2 kaler. aku beli kaler ni then adik aku beli kaler hitam. seriously aku cuma pakai sekali sahaja waktu balik dari Osaka sebab kasut ini gabak and beg aku dah tak celuih. then tak pakai dah. dem abis berhabuk kat atas rak. huhuhu lagi.

Item 3


Kasut Zara ni plak memang aku tak pernah pakai langsung. saiz 9. beli dulu pon sebab giler murah amat and senang masuk beg. paid for about GBP10~RM50. kaler pink kottttt. aku nak pakai camna pon aku tak tau. aku takder ler pandai berfesyen funky kalerina nieh sangat. so memang tersadai ajer la kat atas rak kasut dan aku cuci dari sawang from time to time. aduhai kasut. kesian sama dikau.

Item 4


Ini kasut Nike beli dekat Roermond saiz 10. For one reason only. dia letak kat last pair with extra 50% reduction. kat situ dia tulis EUR20. aku ingat dah lepas reduction dah. rupanya sebelum reduction. jadi tinggal ler EUR10~RM43. walaupun kaler dia ni memang tak bleh blah tapi belasah beli gak sebab jadi giler sekejap. hahahaha. waktu time beli tu tak convert ke RM dah. terus rasa cam beli kasut sepoloh hengget sahaja. tapi memang aku tak pernah pakai. tak tau bila dan di mana boleh dipakai. aduhai kasut sekali lagi kasihan sama dikau. 

Item 5


Cerita ini kasut Timberland lagi sengal. saiz 10. bought it in Paris. in three different colours. same design. two reason. sebab affordable dan senang masuk beg. satu sudah letgo sama aku punya kawan as soon as i came back. then rasa nak letgo ini satu lagi. tak pernah pakai langsung. pastu aritu aku gi JPO tengok the exact kasut rega asal ialah RM359 and reduce to RM259. i just paid for EUR30~RM130 per pair. giler good purchase tapi memang aku tak pernah pakai. adoiiii. dah start buat sawang sudah. 

Item 6


Beli ini kasut Puma sebab suka dia punya design. saiz 10. ini waktu lalu depan kedai Puma kat Roermond tu nampak dia tulis rega besar besar EUR20 per pair. apalagi balasah la masuk terus angkat. tapi sama jugak dengan nasib kasut yang lain. ini tak pernah pakai langsung. the only time aku pakai adalah waktu aku try on the size tu aja dulu. errrrrrr.

Item 7


Ini kasut Puma pon beli kat kedai yang sama. saiz 10. sama rega dengan kasut sebelumnya. ini yang jenis aku tak try terus amik ikut saiz. demmmm. tak pernah pakai. serious tak tipu. try for the size pon tak pernah. tag pon still intact. giler haper. aku suka gak ini kasut tapi tak pernah pakai. tak tau apasal. errrrrmmmm. need to think.

Item 8


Kasut Timberland ni aku tak tau apasal aku tak pernah pakai. saiz 10. it fits well with jeans. itu ajer aku punya kayu pengukur. if the shoe goes well with jeans. it can fit with any others. harga aku tengok kat kedai mak datuk punya mahal. RM600++. bought it for RM250 at JPO. tapi sayangnya aku tak pernah pakai pon. still elok ajer tersarung dalam kotak sampai aku terlupa sebab aku letak dalam bilik yang dah jadi cam stor tu dibawah timbunan kotak kotak yang lain. aduhaiiii again. 

This is just part of it. banyak lagi kasut aku ada rupanya. seriously need to clean up la. just stick to those yang bebetul aku pakai aje. what is the point kalau tersadai ajer tak terpakai. aku nak letgo kat adik adik aku pon semua dah angkat red light kata tak payah. kasut yang sebelum ni aku letgo pon still elok lagi dan jarang-jarang dipakai. so i am starting to clean up my shoe rack so that it would fit someone else's feet appropriately. kalau nak tunggu aku pakai ntah bila la. walaupun aku kalau tengok wayang pon pakai kasut dan setiap kali pon bertukar tukar tapi still ada kasut yang left out. aku kasihan sama itu kasut. semoga ia dapat mencari tuan yang baru. 

p/s : tobat aku tak payah beli kasut dah lepas nieh.

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Thursday, August 22, 2013

Duit Hantaran - Duit Belanja - What is it for?

Okay. mengomel lagi pasal kahwin nieh. 

The other day i read an article in Cosmo about why muda-mudi sekarang sukar mau berkahwin. dalam itu artikel dia tulis pasal duit hantaran sekarang nie dah melampau-lampau tingginya. ada harga pasaran mind you. kalau orang tu ada degree the minimum berapa and what not and what not lah. kekadang tu pon bukan ikut ada degree ke tak. just terus ajer pihak perempuan letak bagi. nah amik ko. kalau ko tak mampu bayaq tak payah nak menikah dengan anak aku katanya. errrrr.

Talking about duit hantaran or some might say duit belanja. What the heck. Its still the same thing. Why people put such a high price on it. I have 8 siblings of which 3 of us are married. My second sister. so waktu my sister got married. we never asked for any hantaran. just mas kahwin by my brother in law consist of seutas rantai emas. that's all. no hantaran whatsoever not. my big brother hantaran RM6k. and my lil bro last year RM10k. itu pon adalah nilai yang dipersetujui oleh kedua-dua pengantin. not the family. 

Some said that. duit hantaran itu adalah untuk buat kenduri kahwin sebelah pihak perempuan. so literally pengantin lelaki are paying for both sides of the wedding ceremony. katanya sekarang ni katering dah makin mahal and what not sebab tu hantaran makin mahal. owhhhhhh. begitu ke?

Some other plak. because of the predecessor yang kahwin tu kena lagi rendah daripada yang nak kawin tuh. contohnya kalau si akak dah kahwin hantaran RM10k. si adik plak kena la lagi tinggi daripada akak. tak bleh lagi murah or sama harga. nanti apa orang kata. WTF? ada plak gunakan jiran or sepupu or orang semukim punya recent hantaran sebagai base. tak bleh lagi rendah. nanti apa orang kata. WTF again!!!

Sometimes i do wonder about what the fuss is all about. now it is somehow terjawab lah. sebab taknak orang mengata katanya. but i thought marriage is for the two people. peduli la apa orang nak kata. supposedly people get married according to their own means. kalau dah parents tu mampu nak buat kenduri RM1 juta pon okay la. dah mampu camtu. tapi kalau yang biasa biasa nie yang jenis kalau nak kahwin memang lelaki tu kena tanggung sebab family is not from the well-off family that can really give a helping hand when it comes to the financial matters. camna tuh. takkan still nak ikut harga pasaran gak kot. 

My friend said. when it comes to marriage ceremony. it is all about the lady's dream. itu tak bleh beralah. perempuan yang set semua dari hujung rambut ke hujung kaki. nak memorable katanya. and when you said memorable. it spells out a huge amount of RM. kad kahwin mau yang keras-keras dengan reben segala bagai yang rega setem lagi mahal dari harga kad sebab berat. sebab itu first impression katanya. WTF? pastu wajib ada doorgift untuk bagi orang yang bertandang ke kenduri tu sebab dah memang trend sekarang orang tak bagi bunga telur. bagi door gift plak. nanti apa orang kata. WTF again!!! then photographer plak mesti mau yang harga mahal sebab kalau harga murah nanti gambar kahwin tak cantik katanya. WTF again and again!!! and so many more demands that is just because of the social pressure not really keperluan. 

What about the expenses after marriage then. after all money has been spent on the wedding itself. mau pengsan. habis RM30-40k for the wedding then lepas kahwin makan megi berbulan bulan. hahaha. not the kind of start that appeals to the married people right. 

I on the other hand. would rather spend on something substantial. for myself and whomever the wife to be lah. like the barang hantaran atas dulang tu. let it be something yang memang tahan lama and boleh pakai lama. barang hantaran kotttt and sendiri mau pakai maaa. so beli la benda yang mahal skit tapi bleh tahan lama and memang wearable. then spent more on the honeymoon. memandangkan aku ni travel junkie of course la itu would be the kind of perfect start for the married life. to have that permanent travelling partner to travel together kan. hehehe.

But whatever it is. this is only my perspective. people can actually argue that i am narrow-minded and what not. but i rather like the idea of marriage back to the basic. which is. two people starting a life together. having a ceremony that is memorable by the standard of not how much you spent but how many important people in your life come to celebrate it. then kick start with a good memorable travel journey somewhere that will be the most memorable moment of your life. 

Errr. but seeing the trend nowadays. i don't see that this will be happening. just have to keep up with the trend katanya. wadefish. 

p/s: tetiba rasa cam nak kahwin kat selatan thailand ajer cam itu citer ombak rindu...dah trend katanya...maya karin lagi weih...hahaha...

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Sunday, June 23, 2013

Shopaholics...Bargain Hunter...Are they the same?

I believe that i am not a shopaholics...

Because i don't spend like crazy...

I rather regard myself as bargain hunter...

Because i only spend on a good deal...

Therefore...

Both are not the same...

~mode giving justification for myself~

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