Getting Married Or Getting Financially Broke?

Lately i found myself thinking about marriage (thanks to my friends who already found their other half)....some of my friends thought that i am THAT desperate to get married...well i DO want to get married, but i am NOT that desperate...after some buddies talk with my close friends, i like to let it be...and let god decide for me whats good for me...who's the one that i should pick or who's the one that i will grow old with...i leave it in the hands of god...~jodoh adalah ketentuan tuhan yang tidak berubah~

Recently i listen to one of my bosses talking about his son's upcoming marriage...and he blatantly told us that it is not cheap to get married...hurmmm...hearing how much he have to spent for his son's marriage (huh? the father paid for the son's wedding, how 'wonderful') all of us who are still single best be prepared for when it is the time for either one of us to get married...

I don't really believe in spending extravagantly for a wedding...call me a loser, unromantic or kedekut, and i don't care....coz the way i see it....it is the bond is more important...religion-wise i mean...i heard some of my friends who had up to RM30,000 as the dowry along with handbags, perfumes, shoes that only spells out more zeros at the back...well...if you are up to and totally can afford it, why not...but for those who aren't that lucky to have their 'father' to PAY for the wedding and starving themselves every month so that they can meet the demand of the intended's family of high dowry, then i feel sorry for them...some even resort to a personal loan to get married...which is totally acceptable as long as you know that the person is the ONE for you....if it falls apart in the middle of the life-long journey, then i feel sorry for them be paying their ruined marriage (on top of the alimony and all) long even after they are separated...that would be 'awesome'~sarcastic tone applied~

Talking about dowry, once i asked a friend how much she would be demanding for her dowry...and not to my surprise, she quoted 5 figures...its like 'the market' price nowadays...and if she go any lower, people around would question why she is so 'cheap'....huh? i was totally flabbergasted...i never known until that day that people have market price for dowries in Malaysia...if the girl have diploma, there's a price, if she have degree, it would be a lil bit higher, and it goes on (education-wise)...then i was wondering how much it would cost for a PhD holder...not to mention if she is the youngest and the sisters are all married, she must have HIGHER dowry than her previous married sisters....huh? i was rendered speechless....call me a dreamer if you want, but i am waiting for a girl who would say to me that she would be content to have 'SENASKAH AL-QURAN & SEHELAI SEJADAH' for her dowry...yeah i can hear people saying ~Dream On~....coz in this materialistic world, the odds are 1:10,000 for that would happen...or more....but i am betting on the odds...huaauahauahauah

Wedding ceremony is just a day where the couple sharing their happiest day of their life with their relatives, neighbors and friends...and i don't think that extravagant spells out more happiness (unless if the girl is ONLY gonna be happy with big wedding)...as for me...a modest wedding would be just nice...just celebrate with family and friends and close neighbors in the neighborhood...you can indeed have a modest wedding and still be happy....and enjoy every moment of it without thinking that you spend too much on your wedding...what if suddenly most of your friends and relatives can't make it to your lavish & extravagant wedding as they have other 'important' engagement in their hands? what if you already have their RSVP and had their seats paid (for those who held it in hotels and convention centre) and having seeing the seats are empty? and it hurts badly when it cost more than RM100 for that particular one seat....think about it...

Ironically enough i have a friend who's girlfriend (now already wife la) who just content on having 'senaskah Al-Quran & sehelai sejadah' as her dowry...they have a modest ceremony (on the guy's side) having invited relatives and close friends as well as neighbors to come and celebrate their wedding done in the comfort of his home...no pelamin, only astaka decorated wonderfully with flower and petals for the total purpose of taking pictures...the pictures came out great, the wedding had great ambience served with the normal wedding cuisines...and they are happy to celebrate it that way (eventho on the girl's side they held it in Hilton Hotel)...i went to both weddings and i rather like the former...it felt better and much more alive....and i still remember what both my friend and his wife told me, 'have a modest wedding and you can spend it more on yourself going for honeymoon or umrah with your love ones' (which he was referring to his wife la)...hurmm...i kinda like the idea...huahuahuah....

Extravagant or not, people are entitled to have a say of how they would love to have their wedding ceremony done...and it is by choice...then again, marriage is not only for one day....the ceremony, yeah it is for one day (or some have it 7 nites celebration ~huh~), but the bond last forever....or that is until you have irrevocable differences....

ajie

10:39 p.m

13 October 2009

PUTRAJAYA